November 17, 2021 | Forest Pointe | Apartment Tips
Whether you are going to be living with a friend, significant other, going in “blind”, etc you are bound to live with someone who is different than you. In many ways. One of those ways is something I think a lot of us dread: cleanliness. We all have our ideas of what “clean” looks like and we all act differently when it comes to our houses being messy and clean. Some of us can function in filth, some of us cannot. What do you do when your roommate is less than tidy? How do you approach them and the conflict at hand? Fear no more, here is your 10-step guide to dealing with a messy roommate!
A cleaning date that is! But really, turn that cleaning frown upside down, together! Order a pizza, grab your favorite beverage, and put a date on the calendar to “clean it up” together. We are stronger in numbers, and we feel supported in the strength of many. Sometimes, we all just need a little help to get by and you reaching out to your roommate and making the cleaning “fun” will be more appreciated than you may think!
In worst cases, your roommate's mess may be trickling into your areas of living. Your bedroom, bathroom, or home office you may have. If this is the case, remember to leave all of your doors to your spaces closed. Clean up yourself and put away anything you do not want to be touched, tampered with or that could leave an open invitation to allow your roommates to mess into your spaces. If their things are bleeding into common living areas, you absolutely have the right to ask them to move their things. Living areas, kitchen, shared bathrooms, and yard spaces are all considered shared spaces.
It may be beneficial to sit down, create cleaning goals and house rules. When doing this you can also incentivize yourselves as a whole, so you are not leaving the messy roommate out or calling them out making them feel bad. For instance, you could make it a house rule that all chores are completed throughout the week on the chore chart, and if they are completed then you and your roommate will treat yourselves to a night out, or a night in with movies and wine, once or twice a month! Not only will this be something to look forward to during the weeks you are cleaning this will also bring you closer together.
Seeing as the mess is not coming from you, (you wouldn’t be seeking advice if it was you) do your part by leading by example. Set the expectations of living and cleanliness of your shared space by your actions. Make the point to do your cleaning routine when your roommate is home. That way they can visually see you cleaning and see the expectations that you set for yourself and for the home.
If you really can not stand the sight of the mess by your roommate and none of these tips and tricks have helped, you may just have to swallow your pride and clean up after them. No one likes to play “mom” but if it is for the sake of your sanity and clean home, you may just want to do it. In the grand scheme of things, if approaching your messy roommate is going to tear you apart, it is not worth it. If the friendship outweighs the mess, then do the cleaning. Coupling 2 tips together, you may just have to start ignoring the mess. Ignore them and ignore their mess. If you can handle it, that is.
Extreme cases are hopefully far and few between but if you are going in “blind” in college or are being roommate matched, you may not know the history of your new roommate’s cleanliness. Whether that be in the home or with themselves. Some people may go as far as to not shower, or let food and dishes pile up so bad that mold or bugs begin to appear. If this sounds like your scenario, unfortunately, it may be time to seriously rethink your living situation. Moving out may be difficult, but it is probably the only choice you have.
Thanks for diving in with us in hopes of clearing up your roommate’s mess. Again, you may want to leave the mess and the fighting to the birds as it may just not be worth it. But there is something to be said in trying and if these tips and tricks work, that is wonderful! We hope we were helpful in all things cleanliness and if you are the messy roommate reading this, we don’t mean to hurt your feelings, filth just isn’t for everyone.
Keep in mind that not everyone has the same upbringing, while some households had more responsibilities than others, your roommate may not be used to cleaning up after themselves. The best start to dealing with messy roommates is to communicate. While you may see a huge mess, might not be a major concern for them. Since an apartment is a shared space, advocating your concerns may be easier than you think and will help save you from stressing over messes! It is our hope that your household will work together in harmony, and in cleanliness.
If this is your first time living on your own, or if you were never really good at cleaning, you might be struggling with keeping your home tidy and clean. There are easy ways to stay on top of cleaning so your apartment always looks and feels clean. Here are a few tips you can use to keep your apartment clean and tidy:
These are just a few tips to help you stay on top of your cleaning responsibilities. For more information or tips on apartment living, visit our blog page!